Love and Honesty

My husband doesn’t want our children to say “Excuse me,” when what they mean is “Get out of my way.” He says it’s dishonest to paint a polite face on a selfish request and would rather that they not pretend to be considerate. I, on the other hand, would rather that they not have a selfish heart that puts themselves first—I would rather that they bring their heart in line with their words, rather than their words in line with their heart. I suppose, in the meantime, it is better that they be honest with themselves about the condition of their hearts. I would sometimes rather not be honest with myself about the condition of their hearts!